Turan 11:07 Mon Nov 17
Getting upset about an affair
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Now this may seem like an odd thing to speak about. But, one of my good friends was hurt that his GF was having an affair.
Now my pre programmed instinct was to think, man that is rotten, how could she do that to you etc.
But then I actually thought a little deeper and thought, actually, what is he getting all upset about?
Surely she is entitled to sleep with who she likes?
There is no ownership involved here. You cannot have love if you have wanting or feel possession of someone.
Then I got deeper and thought that if you think about it even more, it's absurd to get attached to anything with a physical form because nothing of physcial form lasts.
Now you maybe thinking mumbo jumbo, and we are all programmed in society to think that you must get upset when someone has a fuck with someone else, but is it actually necessary? Sex is only even made to be a big deal by society, by business, by advertising by the church, it isn't really anything much.
And how can someone else upset you? It's like impossible, only you can upset you.
Anyway, in the end I told him to get a grip of himself and find someone else if that is what he wants
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BarkingMadHammer
2:16 Tue Nov 18
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Cholo
Have you tried ?
I'm too old for that shizzle these days . .
Read Graham Hancock for recognised tests on the $hit !
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cholo
2:08 Tue Nov 18
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BarkingMadHammer
Re Ayahuasca
It doesn't really open the doors of perception so much as when you're on it, it makes gibberish make sense!
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charleyfarley
1:57 Tue Nov 18
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Nurse your comments on here are getting better. You are wasted you deserve your own show.
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ironsofcanada
1:48 Tue Nov 18
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Going to go out on limb and say its wrong and people should feel bad if they do it and people can feel upset if it is done to them.
However you think we got there, there is ample evidence that shows we are different than the closest animals. So we can act different with a little effort.
We make commitments to each, from marriage to friends, the world would be be place if we took them more seriously not less.
So if someone cannot resist the urge to have sex with another person (which I don't buy), then at least have the decency to break up with who you are with first.
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BarkingMadHammer
1:45 Tue Nov 18
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I recommend a daily dose of
Ayahuasca also commonly called yagé is a psychedelic brew which will open the doors of perception !
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BarkingMadHammer
1:42 Tue Nov 18
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The truth is out there . . .
could be case for Mulder & scully or maybe even
Hercule Poirot . . .
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Lily Hammer
1:41 Tue Nov 18
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BarkingMadHammer 1:34 Tue Nov 18
You can forget us evolving as a species until they have legalised the very good shit you are clearly on there, mate.
As the highly evloved alien visitor from inner space said to the hill-billy.....
"Take me to your dealer!"
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SecondOpinion
1:36 Tue Nov 18
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and you're not known as Barkingmadhammer for nothing
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BarkingMadHammer
1:34 Tue Nov 18
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This has got the mental juices flowing(more like a trickle perhaps maybe due to lack of cells)
Are we still evolving ? We should be or at least expect to learn more . . . .
An example . . . hear me out . . . . There was a day when fire and electricity didn't exist, or was it that it was always there just man’s ability to tap into the knowledge the knowhow of how to start a fire , work out how electricity works . . .
My feeling there is lots more to explore and find out about our universe . . . .given the time , the intelligence etc. etc.
Our minds are surely the next stage of evolution, telepathy interests me , is something in coincidence , having a strong sense?
Anyway this is open to lots of slagging off ha ha ha
Our current status quo, our current way of life, the state frown upon such suggestions we are conditioned now not to question
Things . . . .
Where am I going with this . . . bah . . . . * stubs joint out , and lays down . . . .
To infinity and beyond . . . . . man
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cholo
1:22 Tue Nov 18
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WHOicidal
We are species of great ape, but intrinsically different.
Whether we should experience sexual jealousy or not is by the by.
The fact is we often do.
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Nurse Ratched
1:15 Tue Nov 18
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I know, Bish.
Sadly we have sunk that low.
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bishbosh
1:13 Tue Nov 18
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Philosophy on WHO ????
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WHOicidal Maniac
12:51 Tue Nov 18
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Turan is of course right but I suspect he is trolling.
Great Apes share partners...we intrinsically are no different.
Having said that I would go spastic if I found out my missus had been on the loose.
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Mr Anon
12:48 Tue Nov 18
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How daft, of course it hurts, acts of betrayal from people you trust always do.
Maybe one day, if one of your imaginary girlfriends runs away with one of your imaginary friends, you'll realise that too.
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Coffee
11:57 Tue Nov 18
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I am increasingly convinced that Turan is the 21st century's prototype hippy.
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Allardyce Fan 1
11:49 Tue Nov 18
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When I went to Doncaster for a weekend with the lads one of the boys got with a married woman. We had rented a room in a hostel so we gave him 30 minutes (some of the boys burst in after 5 lol) with her. She then went back to her husband.
She was grim though
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Dapablo
11:14 Tue Nov 18
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CRM
"..we are able now, as individuals, to exercise control over our feelings and the way we behave"
Depends on each person though we're not equal, some people have much greater control over emotional responses and some are just plain knee jerkers with very little control over emotion reaction.
The fact that we can communicate and control emotional reaction is what makes us human beings.
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worm
11:08 Tue Nov 18
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stop saying lol, you cunt
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Lily Hammer
11:08 Tue Nov 18
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Monk~koknee 10:59 Tue Nov 18
You're talking about having babies, which is slowing down in the developed countries, but everyone still wants and needs their oats regularly....or at least to get off on a wank instead.
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SammyWHU
11:02 Tue Nov 18
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Cheated on my dorris once she went mad, fuckin lunatic lol
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Monk~koknee
10:59 Tue Nov 18
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From a unpromising original post this thread appears to have raised an interesting discussion point.
While I would not disagree that the biological imperative is always lurking in the background I do wonder to what degree it influences modern life - not the meanderings of those who pontificate about existence - but the extent to which our brief lives on the planet is driven by the need to reproduce.
As time passes it would seem that (at least for people in developed countries) there are more distractions (such as the desire to make money) and safeguards which reduce the urge or necessity to procreate. Countries like Japan and Singapore being interesting examples where the reluctance to reproduce has resulted in official policy in an attempt to reverse the trend.
Just an observation but it does appear to me that the biological imperative needs to up its game again in some quarters.
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